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nobody

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  23.01.2014 at 18:22
Written by Thrashette on 23.01.2014 at 16:38

Written by Fritillaria on 21.01.2014 at 18:59

I wish I could find a nice way to tell a very nice, kind and gentleman guy that I'm not a good choice for him to start a relationship with. I feel like he's wasting his feelings and time on me I feel bad for this, it's not that I don't like him, actually we have so many things in common, but the problems is that firstly I'm not in the right phase of life to love some one, I really feel I CAN'T MAKE him happy or even I will soon disappoint his honest emotions, second I think he's rushing so much to build up a very uncertain relationship, so hasty about this, third after this long time being single I don't really feel ready for a relationship, somehow I can't exactly get what was it like or what should I do... yeah I have so many doubts.


I can definitely relate to that last part. I really can't imagine myself being in a relationship anymore. I feel like the more time I spend being single, the harder it's gonna be to adapt to being in a relationship again. I'm sure it's still possible, just not right now when I already have enough things to worry about and maintaining a relationship would only put more pressure on me. I think it works the other way too: the longer you spend in a relationship, the harder it is to get used to being single. That's why it's so common to see people who just got out of long term relationships immediately trying to get into another one.


older it will be harder it will be, job, morgade, job, wake ups, bla bla, no time to date, no teenage time when moyther father gives money , isty be harder and harder
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Fearmeister
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  23.01.2014 at 22:37
Written by Fritillaria on 21.01.2014 at 18:59

I wish I could find a nice way to tell a very nice, kind and gentleman guy that I'm not a good choice for him to start a relationship with. I feel like he's wasting his feelings and time on me I feel bad for this, it's not that I don't like him, actually we have so many things in common, but the problems is that firstly I'm not in the right phase of life to love some one, I really feel I CAN'T MAKE him happy or even I will soon disappoint his honest emotions, second I think he's rushing so much to build up a very uncertain relationship, so hasty about this, third after this long time being single I don't really feel ready for a relationship, somehow I can't exactly get what was it like or what should I do... yeah I have so many doubts.


What's funny is that I was in the exact same situation as you, only I'm the guy in the story Got obsessed with a girl but she wasn't ready for any type of relationship for pretty much the same reasons as you. And you know what? We still hung out, with me asking her out the entire time and it was still the best time of my fucking life, even beats the time when I was in a relationship. She has since moved and got a bf (sadface) but we are still really close friends (even friends with the bf!).

But as for your first fear, don't be afraid that you can't make him happy. If he likes you as much as you say, then he will be happy JUST by being around you But I still wouldn't want you to rush into a relationship. My advice would be to just hang out with him and be friends. If you get feelings, then go for it! If not, then you will at least get a really good friend (hopefully).
Fritillaria
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  23.01.2014 at 23:31
Written by Fearmeister on 23.01.2014 at 22:37


What's funny is that I was in the exact same situation as you, only I'm the guy in the story Got obsessed with a girl but she wasn't ready for any type of relationship for pretty much the same reasons as you. And you know what? We still hung out, with me asking her out the entire time and it was still the best time of my fucking life, even beats the time when I was in a relationship. She has since moved and got a bf (sadface) but we are still really close friends (even friends with the bf!).

But as for your first fear, don't be afraid that you can't make him happy. If he likes you as much as you say, then he will be happy JUST by being around you But I still wouldn't want you to rush into a relationship. My advice would be to just hang out with him and be friends. If you get feelings, then go for it! If not, then you will at least get a really good friend (hopefully).


Still this is great that you remember that entire time as the best time of your life, even if you two didn't set up a relationship.


Actually we couldn't meet at least not this soon, we're both in different countries, he said we could know each others' souls till we could meet in real life. That was another aspect of it which was quite weird, all I know about relationships are true in real life and I have never had a experience of long distance relationship and I can't believe in it, although I know three couples who had long distance relationships but now they are married and have real happy life with each others.
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Fearmeister
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  24.01.2014 at 00:15
Written by Fritillaria on 23.01.2014 at 23:31


Still this is great that you remember that entire time as the best time of your life, even if you two didn't set up a relationship.


Actually we couldn't meet at least not this soon, we're both in different countries, he said we could know each others' souls till we could meet in real life. That was another aspect of it which was quite weird, all I know about relationships are true in real life and I have never had a experience of long distance relationship and I can't believe in it, although I know three couples who had long distance relationships but now they are married and have real happy life with each others.


Long distance relationships are tough. Trust me, I've been there. My ex lived in NYC while I was stuck in the middle of the country 700 miles away. Gods know how we were able to keep it together for 2 1/2 years. Anyway, I wouldn't recommend unless you are 200% positive that you want to be with him as they are EXTREMELY stressful.

If you decide to go with it, then my advice will be to cut down the distance as soon as possible and communicate constantly as those are the best ways to keep your sanity.
Fritillaria
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  24.01.2014 at 00:37
Written by Fearmeister on 24.01.2014 at 00:15


Long distance relationships are tough. Trust me, I've been there. My ex lived in NYC while I was stuck in the middle of the country 700 miles away. Gods know how we were able to keep it together for 2 1/2 years. Anyway, I wouldn't recommend unless you are 200% positive that you want to be with him as they are EXTREMELY stressful.

If you decide to go with it, then my advice will be to cut down the distance as soon as possible and communicate constantly as those are the best ways to keep your sanity.


It won't be sooner than a year, and yeah it's very stressful I think, especially when he is in the heart of Europe and I in middle east, with considering all of the reasons above I told him last night that I can't go on although I liked him:-|
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nobody

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From: Sweden

  24.01.2014 at 22:27
I have tryd distamce eralatinships via myspace and it never work actually till she desapered , no emails mo any conacts, 2 months I was fucked, till I get over her, it was hard but I miss those days, old MS days, new myspace and other i net was kind a new, all was fucke dup till there was meeting day in real life....one week before no conacts, no nothing, I show up in that place, I ddnt saw her, well she is alive, because, I saw her friend on FB and she was tagged there .it was last year so, she is alive and well deiatnt relatinships dont works
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nobody

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Age: 29
From: Sweden

  24.01.2014 at 22:28
Written by Fritillaria on 23.01.2014 at 23:31

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Actually we couldn't meet at least not this soon, we're both in different countries,


is he Eric?
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Life is to short for LOVE, there is many great things to do online !!!

Stormtroopers of Death - ''Speak English or Die''

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Fritillaria
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  24.01.2014 at 22:31
Written by Bad English on 24.01.2014 at 22:28

Written by Fritillaria on 23.01.2014 at 23:31

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Actually we couldn't meet at least not this soon, we're both in different countries,


is he Eric?


You're crazy ! no of course he isn't
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"He replies that he is stronger than the wolves, because he stands alone."
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nobody

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Age: 29
From: Sweden

  24.01.2014 at 22:56
Written by Fritillaria on 24.01.2014 at 22:31



You're crazy ! no of course he isn't


I am yes I know
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Life is to short for LOVE, there is many great things to do online !!!

Stormtroopers of Death - ''Speak English or Die''

I better die, because I never will learn speek english, so I choose dieing
Fearmeister
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From: USA

  24.01.2014 at 23:49
Written by Fritillaria on 24.01.2014 at 22:31

Written by Bad English on 24.01.2014 at 22:28

Written by Fritillaria on 23.01.2014 at 23:31

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Actually we couldn't meet at least not this soon, we're both in different countries,


is he Eric?


You're crazy ! no of course he isn't


It's obviously Angel Reaper!
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nobody

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Age: 29
From: Sweden

  24.01.2014 at 23:53
Written by Fearmeister on 24.01.2014 at 23:49


It's obviously Angel Reaper!


maybe you?'or me , maybe Troy, Marcel, Leximus Prime, maybe soem hot guy ij the tread
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Stormtroopers of Death - ''Speak English or Die''

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Fritillaria
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  25.01.2014 at 07:02
Written by Fearmeister on 24.01.2014 at 23:49


It's obviously Angel Reaper!

hehe no he was no MSer.
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nobody

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  25.01.2014 at 13:17
Written by Fritillaria on 25.01.2014 at 07:02

Written by Fearmeister on 24.01.2014 at 23:49


It's obviously Angel Reaper!

hehe no he was no MSer.

Mikko?
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Stormtroopers of Death - ''Speak English or Die''

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Fritillaria
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  25.01.2014 at 20:31
Written by Bad English on 25.01.2014 at 13:17

Mikko?


F***k no ! Stop guessing him you won't know him anyway.
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3rdWorld

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  27.01.2014 at 07:21
Fine, Long distance relationships are stressful. But what about dating older women?
Marcel Hubregtse
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  27.01.2014 at 17:01
Written by 3rdWorld on 27.01.2014 at 07:21

But what about dating older women?


what age difference would you consider being older?
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Troy Killjoy
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  27.01.2014 at 18:19
Written by Marcel Hubregtse on 27.01.2014 at 17:01
what age difference would you consider being older?

Very important question. It's cool if I hook up with a 30-year-old at my age, not so much with a 70-year-old. I mean if that's what you're into then by all means, I'm the last person to mock a fetish, but I think my cap would probably be 40-45 right now.
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Marcel Hubregtse
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  27.01.2014 at 20:05
Written by Troy Killjoy on 27.01.2014 at 18:19

Written by Marcel Hubregtse on 27.01.2014 at 17:01
what age difference would you consider being older?

Very important question. It's cool if I hook up with a 30-year-old at my age, not so much with a 70-year-old. I mean if that's what you're into then by all means, I'm the last person to mock a fetish, but I think my cap would probably be 40-45 right now.


Why I asked is because I am currently dating a woman older than me. Okay, just two years older, but still older. Some people I know already find that weird and are of the opinion that the man should be the older one in a relationship.
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Fritillaria
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  27.01.2014 at 20:09
Well I don't think that after a certain age that would be necessary, it's not really weird to date women older than you after 35, and I think it's just something that couple themselves should agree on.
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3rdWorld

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  27.01.2014 at 20:34
Written by Marcel Hubregtse on 27.01.2014 at 17:01

Written by 3rdWorld on 27.01.2014 at 07:21

But what about dating older women?


what age difference would you consider being older?

The one I got into a fleeting relationship is exactly 20 months older than me. Add to that it is a Long distance relationship. A total pain in the fucking arse.
Fritillaria
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  27.01.2014 at 20:49
Written by 3rdWorld on 27.01.2014 at 20:34

The one I got into a fleeting relationship is exactly 20 months older than me. Add to that it is a Long distance relationship. A total pain in the fucking arse.


Oh that's really complicated, but like I said before it really depends on you two, I know three couples who had long distance relationship and they successfully handled it and they now are married living happily.
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nobody

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Age: 29
From: Sweden

  27.01.2014 at 21:49
Written by Marcel Hubregtse on 27.01.2014 at 17:01

Written by 3rdWorld on 27.01.2014 at 07:21

But what about dating older women?


what age difference would you consider being older?


sex leither after 10-20 years in realatinships if she is 10-20 years older
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nobody

Posts: 36624

Age: 29
From: Sweden

  27.01.2014 at 21:52
Older depends how if its 2-3 years yes iyt can be but 10-20 I dont think so it will be hard leither when we both get older, some do it ieach case is diferent, me, i have dated one night date whit older women, 10 - 20 years 3 times in life , same as whit same age, but long time ,, I dunno, probabbly at my case it wont work
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Stormtroopers of Death - ''Speak English or Die''

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3rdWorld

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Age: 21
From: India

  28.01.2014 at 05:54
Written by Fritillaria on 27.01.2014 at 20:49

Oh that's really complicated, but like I said before it really depends on you two, I know three couples who had long distance relationship and they successfully handled it and they now are married living happily.


Yes it really depends on the two of us. And here nothing is going as I've expected and I'm just dying not to let this turn into a case of unrequited love.
IronAngel

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  29.01.2014 at 13:38
Written by 3rdWorld on 27.01.2014 at 07:21

But what about dating older women?



I live with a woman 7 years older than me. I have never been happier, never known a person more in tune with me, and physically it's all I could hope for. She knows what she wants and can hold her own, which makes for a very balanced and respectful relationship. I can be rather overbearing, but she'll push back and doesn't just quietly conform to please. I don't know if it's so much an age thing as it is a match of two stubborn first-borns who are each other's intellectual equals. I had a long relationship with a girl my age before her, but she was a little sister and not quite as eccentric as I am. It was never a perfectly open and equal relationship, although on the surface there was nothing wrong with it. I suppose I need a woman I can admire and challenge as an equal.

It does help that we're in similar situations in life, though. If she was some company exec, it might be an unequal situation (and I wouldn't be interested). But we're both University people, I'm writing my master's thesis and she's working on her doctoral dissertation. We're both broke and have no concrete plans for the future, and we understand the nature of the work we do and the sacrifices involved. If one of us gets funding at some foreign Uni, we're free to pack our bags and go.

One thing you need to consider when you're with an older woman is whether you want children. It may not be the first thing on your mind, but there really are some biological facts people would rather forget about. If she's going on 30 and you want kids, you're not going to have many years left to get started. But yeah, if you're 21 dating someone who's 23, I guess that's not a big deal.
Thrashette

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  03.02.2014 at 04:49
Written by IronAngel on 29.01.2014 at 13:38

Written by 3rdWorld on 27.01.2014 at 07:21

But what about dating older women?

It does help that we're in similar situations in life, though. If she was some company exec, it might be an unequal situation (and I wouldn't be interested). But we're both University people, I'm writing my master's thesis and she's working on her doctoral dissertation. We're both broke and have no concrete plans for the future, and we understand the nature of the work we do and the sacrifices involved. If one of us gets funding at some foreign Uni, we're free to pack our bags and go.


I think being at different stages in life and therefore having different expectations for a relationship is one of the biggest obstacles with a big age difference. I'm not too sure why people are making a big deal out of 1-2 year age differences. The only people I know in real life who still care about that are in high school or really shallow immature university students. I often attract people who are younger than me because I look way younger than I actually am and I've only had them back off after finding out my real age a few times. In most cases that satisfy the "half your age plus 7" rule, it's not a big deal. But going back to what I said before, there was someone I was kinda sorta seeing who was 3 years older than me. So it was enough of an age difference to be at a different stage in life (working and living alone, as opposed to a student still living at home like me). I can't help but to think that it never really went anywhere because I didn't have enough life experience/accomplishments even though I am mature for my age and was at least equal intellectually. I have a friend who dated a guy who was 7 years older. She was in her first relationship and just looking for experience and a good time, while he was looking for someone to settle down and start a family with. Needless to say, it did not go well...
BestMetalstormer

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  06.02.2014 at 00:57
Love between younger guy and older female can be best marking in memory of guys career of love.. I do encourage guys dating older women, even not to say marriage. Firstly, the first harmony between young guy and older women are sex harmony, milf mature with guy together always warmer cuz of psychological and physical attachment becuz of different age in between, female older tend to be in stable of libido and acceptance with tolerance why younger guys full of freedom generating, if younger female, or young, and similar age could be more of having clash of demand and control, younger female always be freak control of demand. Secondly, as regard of life living harmony, older female are more in harmony with younger guy, due to when together with younger guy, the more of acceptance, and tolerance for male partner more as it is, less fight, general of mutual understanding, even control are more tolerated than older guy young girl, also older female tend to be more of maturity and lots of tolerance when dealing with younger guy even when shes young age..its sad that actually in life most girls wants older men, but when more of maturity they want younger dude..i do encourage girls dating younger guys also, you can get lots of helps from younger guys, also in life with younger guys you will be more of control in stability..the only problem is that most couple younger guy older female have is baby birth, actually 10 years difference still so fine as i ve seen a lots of that such age couple having kids looking so beautiful ppl. I think age difference doesnt matter much, if for having kids that health and time need given care.. And if guys say older female too old, actually it is still rooted in attraction of two partners, too old makes no attractive, but there are always older female attractive to younger male, its even psychological,..

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