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Posted by R Lewis on 21.04.2013 at 13:02
Metal is not always highly regarded - at least here in Italy - and It took me a lot of time to convince my parents that there was nothing evil in it. One thing that helped me is that I started from really "calm" genres - punk, hard rock - and than gradually switched to heavier styles, but nothing extreme. Now my parents accept it peacefully, 'cause they see Metal makes me happy. And my mom also likes some power ballads.

The real question is: how did your parents react when they discovered what kind of music you listened to? Or did themselves introduce you to metal?



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Marcel Hubregtse
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  24.04.2013 at 14:13
Written by JaciLeigh on 23.04.2013 at 19:34



Daddy *nods head to music* "Just be careful what you listen to,


why would he say something that weird? As if listening to some music can be dangerous.
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Jtbmetal123

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  24.04.2013 at 15:20
My dad introduced me to metal.My mom listens to whatever is on the radio. So my dad was thankful that I started listening to metal.
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Skandino

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  24.04.2013 at 15:42
Written by Marcel Hubregtse on 24.04.2013 at 14:13
??? why would he say something that weird? As if listening to some music can be dangerous.

One of these days I will finally blast Sadness Will Prevail in its entirety. We'll see what happens...
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Swordbearer

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  24.04.2013 at 19:06
I think they hoped it was a phase. When I started growing my hair I my mother wanted to not let me do it, but I persisted. Now she says I look better with long hair. My father likes hard rock and some bands I listen to (like Ill Nino, In Extremo, Rhapsody and Stratovarius) but he is not into it as much as I am. But both of them are happy that I chose my own way in life. Although I tormented them a few days back with Chthonic on loud volumes...don't think they liked that...
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MojoGG

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From: Austria

  25.04.2013 at 00:51
My mother always says I should turn the volume down and my father likes metal and we always listen to each others favourite song together.
JaciLeigh

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Age: 14
From: USA
  25.04.2013 at 01:58
Quote:
why would he say something that weird? As if listening to some music can be dangerous.

He just doesn't want me listening to something satanic and the like. We are a highly religious, Christian family haha. Black metal makes me uncomfortable, as good as some of it is, anyway so I don't have much to worry about. Although, I do listen to Welicoruss from time to time...
ANGEL REAPER

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  25.04.2013 at 12:53
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Written by JaciLeigh on 25.04.2013 at 01:58

why would he say something that weird? As if listening to some music can be dangerous.

He just doesn't want me listening to something satanic and the like. We are a highly religious, Christian family haha. Black metal makes me uncomfortable, as good as some of it is, anyway so I don't have much to worry about. Although, I do listen to Welicoruss from time to time...

hey i remember the first time i listened to Black Metal record...i liked the music from the start but all the time while it played i had this feeling i am doing something wrong...(and i wasn't even religious) ...
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JaciLeigh

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  25.04.2013 at 13:00
Quote:
Hey i remember the first time i listened to Black Metal record...i liked the music from the start but all the time while it played i had this feeling i am doing something wrong...(and i wasn't even religious) ...

I do the same thing, so I don't listen to it a lot. However, I already liked the song Kharna before I realized it was black metal and I have to listen to it now XD
theFIST

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  25.04.2013 at 13:32
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Written by JaciLeigh on 25.04.2013 at 01:58

why would he say something that weird? As if listening to some music can be dangerous.

He just doesn't want me listening to something satanic and the like. We are a highly religious, Christian family haha. Black metal makes me uncomfortable, as good as some of it is, anyway so I don't have much to worry about. Although, I do listen to Welicoruss from time to time...

well, satan is a character of the christian mythology, so why should that be a problem?
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ANGEL REAPER

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  25.04.2013 at 13:37
Quote:
Written by JaciLeigh on 25.04.2013 at 13:00

Hey i remember the first time i listened to Black Metal record...i liked the music from the start but all the time while it played i had this feeling i am doing something wrong...(and i wasn't even religious) ...

I do the same thing, so I don't listen to it a lot. However, I already liked the song Kharna before I realized it was black metal and I have to listen to it now XD

but dont get me wrong i listen to it a lot...its just at that time it was...strange...
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Widows Son

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  25.04.2013 at 14:28
"How did your parents react when they discovered what kind of music you listened to?"

For me it was largely split down the middle between my Mother and Father. The former was far more accepting than the latter, though I am happy to say even my Father's criticism stopped at good humored jest. Indeed, where my Mother was (and largely is concerned) she was responsible for my love affair with music in the first place, and a degree of reciprocity has arisen as a result. Many of the metal bands I listened to in the early days, as well as those I have come to listen to over the years, have become favourites of my mothers also, AND those artists or bands she does not particular like to this day, she at least knows by sound and can appreciate certain elements therein. On more than one occasion I have been asked to make her a "mix tape" as a result of her hearing what I am listening to.
Mercyful_Kate

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Age: 26
From: USA

  25.04.2013 at 16:29
My parents actually like a lot of the music I listen to. They're both in their sixties and will listen to a lot of the stoner doom that I like. They also like certain punk and hardcore bands I listen to. I could never get them into the more extreme stuff though. It's just not easy enough listening for a couple of kids who grew up on The Beatles and Neil Young.
Daysleeper92

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Age: 22
From: Guatemala

  26.04.2013 at 04:49
MMM... Well both my mom and dad didnt say me anything at all, in fact they said: "if you like it, its ok", strangely my friends (they´re not metalheads) where the ones, well not all of them but they said at the beginning "OMG how can you listen to that, that may be satanic and bla bla bla" ¬¬
BloodTears
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  26.04.2013 at 13:31
I still haven't posted on here? I thought I did. Anyway, it's an interesting topic.

It was a process for me but my parents were never negative about it. I played guitar before I started listening to more extreme forms of metal and by then my parents already knew I had interest in music in general and rock, heavy music in particular. When I started broadening my horizons with metal and several of its subgenres, it was a natural thing. I go to a lot of shows and my parents know a lot of "metalheads", so it isn't a big deal. Luckily, they never gave me a hard time about it. I think that was because my brother also listened to heavy music before and kinda passed that on to me and also my parents let me listen to what I want to because I'm a very independent person and will do what I want regardless. It's part of my personality. If I was a teen, maybe the story would be different.

I can listen to the most extreme forms of metal in my room out loud and they are next door and that doesn't bother them. It's the same as if I would be listening to The Killers, it's just music for them. They can even enjoy some of the prog bands I listen to it when it's softer.

So, I'm happy I have the freedom and that's how it should be.
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DeepBlueSea

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  26.04.2013 at 16:09
When I started listening to metal my parents thought that the music wasn't good for me, because for them the lyrics were only sad and the mucis was to loud and angry. But I guess that was only because back then I was only twelve.
Now, my mother doesn't care about it and my fahter listenes to some metal bands too. (Like Epica, Nightwish, Sonata Arctica, Stratovarius...)When I buy new CD's he also tells me I should put them on his MP3-Player^^
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  26.04.2013 at 22:19
Written by DeepBlueSea on 26.04.2013 at 16:09

Now, my mother doesn't care about it and my fahter listenes to some metal bands too.


Antipodal.

it's just that long back my mom have started doesn't caring about us what we listen to and what not. When i was young, i know pretty well my dad had to listen lot of angry rambling from mom about having an Metal effects on me. But, that doesn't stay it pretty longer before dad handed over me a Sabbath's Paranoid cd and getting fucking crashed down in this whole Heavy Metal culture.
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  26.04.2013 at 22:25
I can remember growing up and listening to music like Slipknot, Cannibal Corpse and it never bothered my step father. It was my mother that tried to keep me away from the music that i loved at the time. I remember this one day i came home from school and she threw away all of my cd's haha ... I look back and laugh about it now but omfg that was the worst day ever.

Im 26 and even till this day my mother doesnt approve of the music that i listen to, but she just doesn't say anything anymore. For those who are still living with their parents and are going through what i went through, all that i can say is ... STASH YOUR MUSIC!
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  26.04.2013 at 22:29
Written by Opethian on 26.04.2013 at 22:25



Im 26 and even till this day my mother doesnt approve of the music that i listen to, but she just doesn't say anything anymore. For those who are still living with their parents and are going through what i went through, all that i can say is ... STASH YOUR MUSIC!


Nowadays it is easier, lock your PC whit password ........and its done, they can not do it
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Opethian

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  26.04.2013 at 22:45
Written by Bad English on 26.04.2013 at 22:29

Written by Opethian on 26.04.2013 at 22:25



Im 26 and even till this day my mother doesnt approve of the music that i listen to, but she just doesn't say anything anymore. For those who are still living with their parents and are going through what i went through, all that i can say is ... STASH YOUR MUSIC!


Nowadays it is easier, lock your PC whit password ........and its done, they can not do it


Very true!
Sunioj

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From: Israel

  27.04.2013 at 01:55
Written by Opethian on 26.04.2013 at 22:25

I can remember growing up and listening to music like Slipknot, Cannibal Corpse and it never bothered my step father. It was my mother that tried to keep me away from the music that i loved at the time. I remember this one day i came home from school and she threw away all of my cd's haha ... I look back and laugh about it now but omfg that was the worst day ever.

Im 26 and even till this day my mother doesnt approve of the music that i listen to, but she just doesn't say anything anymore. For those who are still living with their parents and are going through what i went through, all that i can say is ... STASH YOUR MUSIC!


Dude, the same shit happened to me. Except she actually lit mines on fire. My mom is pretty irrelevant to me anyways, so its not like I would care if she still said something.

I don't remember how I stashed my CD's, I think I left them in my locker at school or just at someone else's house that I trusted. I never went home with them though, I would always burn a copy just in case it was found.
Opethian

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From: USA

  27.04.2013 at 05:17
Written by Sunioj on 27.04.2013 at 01:55

Written by Opethian on 26.04.2013 at 22:25

I can remember growing up and listening to music like Slipknot, Cannibal Corpse and it never bothered my step father. It was my mother that tried to keep me away from the music that i loved at the time. I remember this one day i came home from school and she threw away all of my cd's haha ... I look back and laugh about it now but omfg that was the worst day ever.

Im 26 and even till this day my mother doesnt approve of the music that i listen to, but she just doesn't say anything anymore. For those who are still living with their parents and are going through what i went through, all that i can say is ... STASH YOUR MUSIC!


Dude, the same shit happened to me. Except she actually lit mines on fire. My mom is pretty irrelevant to me anyways, so its not like I would care if she still said something.

I don't remember how I stashed my CD's, I think I left them in my locker at school or just at someone else's house that I trusted. I never went home with them though, I would always burn a copy just in case it was found.


Your mom sounds brutal. If it ever happens and if i do decide to have offspring, i will remember my years living with my parents and respect his or her taste in Music
Sunioj

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Age: 27
From: Israel

  27.04.2013 at 10:19
Written by Opethian on 27.04.2013 at 05:17

Your mom sounds brutal. If it ever happens and if i do decide to have offspring, i will remember my years living with my parents and respect his or her taste in Music


haha yeah man, I should send her a thank you card for inadvertently contributing to my metalness. Indeed, I wouldn't care what they listened to as long as they were respectful about their tastes.
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nobody

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From: Sweden

  27.04.2013 at 13:46
Written by BloodTears on 26.04.2013 at 13:31

I still haven't posted on here? I thought I did. Anyway, it's an interesting topic.

It was a process for me but my parents were never negative about it. I played guitar before I started listening to more extreme forms of metal and by then my parents already knew I had interest in music in general and rock, heavy music in particular. When I started broadening my horizons with metal and several of its subgenres, it was a natural thing. I go to a lot of shows and my parents know a lot of "metalheads", so it isn't a big deal. Luckily, they never gave me a hard time about it. I think that was because my brother also listened to heavy music before and kinda passed that on to me and also my parents let me listen to what I want to because I'm a very independent person and will do what I want regardless. It's part of my personality. If I was a teen, maybe the story would be different.

I can listen to the most extreme forms of metal in my room out loud and they are next door and that doesn't bother them. It's the same as if I would be listening to The Killers, it's just music for them. They can even enjoy some of the prog bands I listen to it when it's softer.

So, I'm happy I have the freedom and that's how it should be.


Why does your brother is not here in this forum, and how long hair he has

Do you live at aparment or private house, I assume since its close to Lisboa its apartment and how rooms you have.

Well IMO easier are to those kids who live whit conservative parents at private house, harder are apartment.
My father never ever say something, I can be awake all nigh, do whatever I want, I could drink booze at home, take a prostitute and do he , ok I never did it anyway, but It was super freedom, I never need do clean, never need do whatever other parents force them to do. my mother is more conservative , but not to metal . so generally I was lucky, but one negative think is they both wanna see what I am doing, so this is why I never ever told them about i net site where I am , I dont need a spys
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nobody

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From: Sweden

  27.04.2013 at 13:48
Written by DeepBlueSea on 26.04.2013 at 16:09

When I started listening to metal my parents thought that the music wasn't good for me, because for them the lyrics were only sad and the mucis was to loud and angry. But I guess that was only because back then I was only twelve.
Now, my mother doesn't care about it and my fahter listenes to some metal bands too. (Like Epica, Nightwish, Sonata Arctica, Stratovarius...)When I buy new CD's he also tells me I should put them on his MP3-Player^^


How is in Suisse whit english language, is it like Portugal, Spain where onky toung ppl can speek

IMO its easyer in mediterania or even in Germany where many dont understand english, so they cant say much about lyrics, but still does life is happy , no life is bitch, and metal bands sing about all shit whats happening.... happy life is illusion
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Sangre Sani

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From: Poland

  28.04.2013 at 20:40
My parents are very tolerant about metal music. They occasionaly joke about it, but they don't have a problem with my musical orientation.
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Age: 23
From: Egypt

  28.04.2013 at 20:44
They dont what I'm listening to because that I always listen on headphones, they just know it's noisy and I guess they know it's dark and sometimes satanic. I think once or twice they told me to be careful not to listen to blasphemous stuff...
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  28.04.2013 at 20:54
It's always hard for us in the Arab world because Rock/Metal is a complete alien of a genre to our parents and our community, totally unknown instruments, beats and structures ... Arabic folk and Pop music are pretty standard genres and they rarely stray from the classic (bland) structures and rarely use different instruments; so it was never easy to break down Metal/Rock music for my parents. My Mom is really cool about it and my dad has his concerns especially with the imagery and the Growls
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  28.04.2013 at 22:48
Written by Fradd on 28.04.2013 at 20:44

not to listen to blasphemous stuff...


My dad loves that and he always say "if you love Metal, fuck it about gory image, burning churches crap or blasphemy stuff. Just hit the record". Ofcourse, my mom hates all this and that's where the fights use to occur.
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MetallicA

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Age: 27
From: USA

  29.04.2013 at 00:36
My mom didn't care...she was glad I wasn't into all the pop stuff on the radio though. My dad hates it but doesn't care what I listen to. He never told me not to listen to it. He'll joke around with me saying "what the hell is wrong with you" and such but it's all in good fun.
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Zenzero

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Age: 28
From: Italy

  30.04.2013 at 13:19
My parents don't care about of what i listen to! For them (and my neighborhood) the important is that I don't sing in my room, but I do!
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